Wednesday, January 16, 2008

Resistance & Control

I am still in the process of learning how to deal with people who resist change or need to have control. Have you ever had to deal with that? There are so many things I'd like to say but none of them would be helpful to me or anyone else. I guess I have a hard time understanding why some people have a hard time adjusting to change. If the change was bad it would be difficult, but difficulty brings growth (what's the worst that could happen?). When we try to control things I think it displays an insecurity within us (why do people hold on to things so tightly?). Maybe the best way of dealing with people who resist change or need control is simply to embrace them with love and respect, waiting for them instead of trying to change them. Maybe doing just that would help them embrace a little change, and loosen their grip.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

I think that people are afraid of what they do not know, and are more comfortable doing things the way they have seen it work before instead of moving forward. I really enjoyed your prespective on this and agree we should love and wait patiently for those who are lagging behind. I'm not sure I want to "hold" them though it might get werid then :) Kirk

Ryan Paulson said...

I'm down with waiting and loving, but don't you just wish they would hurry up sometimes? I wish I would hurry up and change sometimes.